Im sorry that this is long, but i truly love my girlfriend with all of my heart. just please help me out. im not freaking out or anything, ive done that when i was younger, but now it just hurts in a different way. I love her, this isnt infatuation.please help me. Happy thanksgiving! please take the time to help me. im in pain.
Hi, well my girlfriend and i went on a break yesterday.We have been going out for a little bit over a year now, and we spent EVERYDAY with eachother, so overtime we kind of just got sick of eachother.you know how it is, even if you sspend everyday all day with your best friend you are bound to get sick of them…… it is 1 28 in the morning, so it is technically thanksgiving. Anyways, my girlfriend has been getting mad at me over the dumbest things lately, HONESTLY, the dumbest things.we arent having sex anymore AT ALL. she pulls away when i try to initiate. and when we DO spend time away, she doesnt seem to miss me. Even a couple of weeks ago, if we were to spend even a day away from eachother we would be so lovey dovey when we saw eachother again. ITs not like that anymore… all we do is fight. Yesterday we fought over the dumbest thing. and it resulted in "we need to go on a break, i love you so much, but we keep fighting. i dont mean like a break that we are going to see other people, but we need to figure out if a relationship is something that we both need right now (pay attention here, it gets good) think about it, i know you dont like it that i am always yelling at you, and i dont like it that i cant help getting mad at you for the smallest things, ill take to you WHEN I AM READY"
the reasons that she gave . were reasons FOR ME, to want to go on a break. and whats up with her telling me that she will talk to me when SHE IS READY. do i not deserve the respect to be able to be making ANY of the decisions here?
Oh and i forgot to tell you, we WORK together.
anyways, if she were to cheat, last night would of been the night (three hours ago) . we saw eachother at work later that day. and we didnt even look at eachother. when she was about to leave i made sure that i wasnt around to see her go. i didnt want to know if she would walk out with out saying bye. anyways, she left. and hasnt called me. I know this is weird, but i just had to. i went over to her place and stood outside.(she lives in an apartment) i saw this red muscle car that has NEVER been parked outside of the apartments EVER. trust me i would of noticed it. im at her place almost everyday for over a year now. anyways, the moment i was about to leave and wasnt paying attention, i saw the car drive away. i am pretty convinced that that was what i was looking for. i dont know. im not f in crazy. you would want to know if your partner was cheating on you too.
well here are the signs shes giving me:
asked to go on a break
isnt calling me
gets mad at the smallest things now
gets defensive no matter what
acts completely bored with me
blames the relationship is bad because of me, even though she admits that i am trying to make it work
she rejects sex
acts like a friend
damn… this sucks
i am nineteen. and live in the u.s. What does that have to do with anything?
anyways……. tomorrow or whatever, today is thanksgiving. And i dont know if she is going to call me, and im definately not going to call her. If she doesnt pick up, ill just feel ruined. Today we worked together, and i tried to make it seem like i didnt care at all. And i do. so fucking much. i seriously cant take it. I am so nice to her and i treat her like shes my little princess. I feel like i deserve better. I just dont know what to do. How would should i go about my situation? ignore her? i want to be with her. should i ignore her? maybe then, she will realize what she can lose. i dont know.
awwwww.
Nicole | Nov 26, 2009
sorry to hear that, but i would suggest u to talk to her and solve the problems she is having if any otherwise my opinion would be that u show her that u r going with somebody else!!!
best way is that u should talk to her!!
i just wanna ask u wat is ur age and from which country are u?
aashi | Nov 26, 2009
Sorry to hear that… Although, I am a girl myself so I give you tips on how to make her love you again. First of all, girls love surprises, give her a surprise gift. Such as, a diamond bracelet or diamond earrings. Pretend its valentines day and give her a gift. Second of all, you can apologize in front of her and say your sorry for whatever you did even though you don’t know what you did. Third of all, you can win a cruise with her and relax. Or last and BEST of all, (if you can afford it) you can do ALL THREE OF THEM!. Trust me, I would LOVE everything I just said, and don’t forget… I’m a girl myself so you can trust me k? lol, Hope it helps!
Your Friend,
Cassey
Cassey | Nov 26, 2009
From an honest woman to a boy thats freaking out. "We don’t have sex anymore" makes you sound like a complete jerk. If you will remember it takes two to tango and its not your decision what she does with her body. Because even as your girlfriend/lover/friend/ex you DO NOT own her, she is not your property, she is not your doll to be played with or dog to be summoned when ever your highness commands. Ok so there is a muscle car parked out side. It’s thanksgiving dude, people are visiting family. Here’s the deal. Your suffocating her dude. How many times you call her a day? Why is she defensive? What the hell are you doing that makes her mad. Quite honestly when you say she is getting angry over stupid stuff what is that "stupid stuff" because I bet you my awesome new socks that its not "stupid" to her. My advise. GIVE HER SOME AIR. A break means Anything goes, free for all, " I’m trying this out but I’m going to keep you on the back burner in case things don’t work out" kinda thing. Just move on. She will respect you more for it, and you will respect yourself for it too. She is a person too. If your not what she wants your not what she wants and you can’t help that. You may love her still but it seems that this relationship needs to end before you become some deranged stalker psycho. If she is in fact moving on good for her, you need to do the same. People change and a good relationship is not based on time, because time and people both change. I’m really sorry cause I know I sound like an ass but I’m being honest, because sugar may catch flies but it wont kill the problem. Things will turn around, if not with her so be it. You need to think for you like she is thinking for herself. Let it go. Who knows maybe some time is all it takes to mend the heart and stop the aches…. But don’t wait long……
Luna | Nov 26, 2009